S ~ E ~ X is So Much More Than You Ever Thought!

| September 18, 2013 | 0 Comments


You prob­a­bly already know that breast can­cer and treat­ment wreak havoc with your inti­mate and sex­ual life. Feel­ing fem­i­nine, attrac­tive, desir­able and sexy dur­ing and after treat­ments can seem like a lost cause, and maybe it’s the last thing on your mind. Many women say their sex life wasn’t so great before diag­no­sis and it hardly seems worth it now. My heart aches when I hear things like this because it doesn’t have to be this way. What do I mean by this?

We women don’t know a lot about sex or plea­sure to begin with. Stop and think where you learned about sex ~ what it is, how to do it, how to make it plea­sur­able. Way back in our teen years we may have had a hygiene or human inter­ac­tion class. After that, it was like the blind lead­ing the blind ~ done secretly, not talked about much and not want­ing to get caught or preg­nant. Most women report that their early sex­ual expe­ri­ences weren’t pleas­ant. Many of us haven’t learned a lot since then. We carry a lot of cul­tural sham­ing about being women and being sexy and we don’t know where to get good infor­ma­tion. Even if you’ve had a sat­is­fy­ing inti­mate and sex­ual life, it’s all rad­i­cally changed by breast can­cer and treatments.

What’s a girl to do???

Let’s begin with expand­ing our def­i­n­i­tion of what sex is. We’re trained to think that sex is what hap­pens when some body parts come together, some move­ment hap­pens and some flu­ids are exchanged. This is called inter­course, and the goal is to have an orgasm and help our part­ner to have an orgasm, not nec­es­sar­ily in that order.

Our bod­ies func­tion dif­fer­ently now and inter­course may not feel good, or we may not be inter­ested in it or our libido may have dis­ap­peared. Want­ing to please our part­ner, we may attempt to over­come these chal­lenges. That can be a painful way to go and who wants to feel pain, espe­cially dur­ing lovemaking?

What if we knew that sex was more than gen­i­tal inter­course? Would that inter­est you? Let’s explore a possibility…

Imag­ine that the let­ters S ~ E ~ X are acronyms for

  • Sacred Energy Exchange
  • Spir­i­tual Energy Exchange
  • Sen­sual Energy Exchange

Sud­denly a world of new pos­si­bil­i­ties appears. Here are a few:

  • Hav­ing your part­ner kneel at your feet, bow to you as a god­dess, then kiss your feet with rev­er­ence and love. Then they bathe your feet in warm scented water, gen­tly dry them and mas­sage lotion into your feet, ankles and lower legs. Sounds like Sen­sual Energy Exchange to me!
  • Read aloud to each other ~ try love poems, erot­ica or spir­i­tual mate­r­ial that inspires you both. Set the stage with soft music and can­dles and dress in some­thing that feels sen­sual to you. How’s that for spir­i­tual energy exchange?
  • Sit fac­ing each other, hold­ing hands and look­ing into each other’s eyes. Then tell your sweet­heart 3 things that you love and appre­ci­ate about them. Then have them tell you 3 things they love and appre­ci­ate about you. As you speak, share straight from your heart, as if your heart had lips and could speak. As you lis­ten, drink in their words and know that the truth is being spo­ken. This is a time of sacred energy exchange.

You get the idea. Use your imag­i­na­tion and your heart to cre­ate ways to express and expe­ri­ence love, inti­macy and ten­der­ness and have some fun. These are all forms of S ~ E ~ X. When you expand the hori­zon like this, the pos­si­bil­i­ties are end­less. Happy cre­at­ing, and if you are moved to share some of your cre­ations here, we can all benefit!

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