The Day of Deals and Miracles

| November 1, 2013 | 1 Comment

Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer, cancer and sexuality, breast cancer and kissing, touch

Today is Novem­ber 1, El Dia de Los Muer­tos, the Day of the Dead. This morn­ing at Boot Camp, I men­tioned to my work­out pal about this. She said, “What??!! A day of deals and mir­a­cles?” We laughed and decided that we like that idea. As the day has gone on this has stayed with me.

One mir­a­cle I’m expe­ri­enc­ing today is the mir­a­cle of my skin! Our skin is our largest organ and it’s through our skin that we lit­er­ally feel the world and our phys­i­cal expe­ri­ences. While walk­ing my dogs in the cool foggy morn­ing on the moun­tain, my skin was awak­ened by the cool­ness, damp­ness and the move­ment of the air. I felt it on my cheeks, my hands, my shins and my throat. I also felt it in my nos­trils and down my throat and into my lungs when I inhaled.

I came home and show­ered and felt the warmth and wet­ness of the water, the slip­per­i­ness of the soap and the tex­ture of my hair as I washed it. Then I felt the rough­ness of the towel, the smooth­ness of my facial mois­tur­izer and the heat of the hair dryer.

I chose clothes that feel good on my skin. I felt the soft and warm wet­ness of my pup’s kisses as she sat at my feel while I med­i­tated. I felt the warmth of the sun as it shone through the win­dow onto my face as I sat on my med­i­ta­tion cushion.

I am so grate­ful for my skin and all the sen­sa­tions I feel through it. This now has me think­ing about phys­i­cal plea­sure. My skin loves to be touched in many ways, and I love the feel­ing of touch­ing another’s skin. When I am phys­i­cally inti­mate with my part­ner, our skin offers to many sensations…

Take a moment and imag­ine the sen­sa­tions you expe­ri­ence when you kiss. What do you like about kiss­ing and how do you like to kiss? Do you kiss with your eyes open or closed? Do you kiss with your lips open or closed? Where do you like to kiss and be kissed? The sides and base of the neck? All over the face? On the eye­lids? The hands?

I invite you into an exper­i­ment about touch and kiss­ing. Take some time and begin with touch­ing your­self. Start with your hands and face and try dif­fer­ent types of touch ~ firm, soft, light fin­ger­nails, the fin­ger­tips, mas­sage, and so on. As you touch  your­self, notice what feels best.

Next, try kiss­ing your own hands and fin­gers. Again, try dif­fer­ent types of kiss­ing and notice what feels good.

If you have a part­ner, tell them what you have dis­cov­ered about your sense of touch. Ask if you can explore with them to learn what they like both in terms of giv­ing and receiv­ing touch. You can have a lot of fun with this as you explore and dis­cover. You just may find some new plea­sures that you didn’t know about. Enjoy the mir­a­cle of touch!

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  1. Wendy Doherty says:

    Can­cer assaults our bod­ies in so many ways. That does not mean we have to give up inti­macy with our part­ner. We can grow closer embrac­ing one another while embrac­ing the disease.

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